Checklist For The Hopeful...

Life is like a journey. Sometimes, we tend to lose our way, but if we seek proper couple help, like can be truly fulfilling instead of hating one another's guts.

Ask yourselves this question:

On a scale of one to ten, where do you both stand with each other if you were to rate your relationship with him/her?

Here are a couple of ways for you to help one another to find you way back:

Give your 100%

• Understand that you must not expect 50/50 in a relationship where you do 50 and the other do their 50. "What? I thought it's give and take?" You might exclaim... however, the 50/50 rule is a fallacy. If you truly understand how relationships work, you will understand that when you think you DESERVE the 50 from the other party, it becomes a horrible waiting game of waiting for the other to give their 50 FIRST. That's when it all falls apart.

• A successful relationship is not about 50/50. It's not even 90/10. It's 100 - ZERO! Know this... when you give your 100 percent, the other party is bound to reciprocate and you will get it in even bigger ways. Even if the relationship fails, there will be no regrets.

Personality quadrant

You must understand your personality quadrant well. Are you a controller or a supporter? Are you an analyzer or a promoter? While it is true that opposites attract, it doesn't mean that they can stand each other for the rest of their lives. If you understand the personality quadrant well, you can anticipate which communication style affacts the other party better.

Give and Receive

It's not about give and 'take'. It's about give and receive. Taking is when you feel a feeling of scarcity and you will fight tooth and nail to defend your ground. This kind of behavior is catastrophic in relationships. Once you shift your thinking from taking to receiving, you will operate from a position of abundance and make life easier for your other half.